Couples Therapists Describe the Most Common Relationship Mistakes

Very often, the cause of a relationship being on the rocks is traced back to unhealthy communication between partners. These issues surface when either one or both of them refuse to be patient listeners. This results in people feeling unheard in the relationship and they gradually lose interest. 

Another commonplace mistake in relationships is not addressing issues to avoid conflicts. This however misfires in the most dangerous manner. Dodging issues that bother you or your partner lays the foundation for further misunderstandings. 

Sharing one’s partner’s shortcomings is another habit that ruins relationships. In such cases, it becomes difficult to focus on their significant other’s positives and aggravates the problem instead of finding a solution. 

One thing that can be easily scooped up from the pool of relationship mistakes is getting too overwhelmed by life events. Sometimes certain things take up so much space in people’s lives that their partner’s existence becomes oblivious to them. As soon as significant events of personal importance spring up, they channel all their energy towards it. This lack of balance often leaves people feeling neglected, uncared for, and second-guessing their position in their partner’s life, even though that is the last thing they intended to make them feel.

A little carelessness usually raises a giant ridge between couples. It is understandable that two individuals mending their ways around each other is not a cakewalk. However, after having awareness of your partner’s likes and dislikes, if you continue to repeat the things that tick them off, it makes it evident for your partner to assume that you have taken them for granted. Most couples part ways after having to fight for the same thing over and over again. It is because that heralds the lack of effort on one partner’s end and impedes the progress of the relationship. 

It is practically impossible for people planning their lives together to keep their financial situations completely separate. At some point in time, partners’ finance management begins to overlap. Since most people do not foresee this, they fail to acknowledge how domineering a factor it can be in soiling their relationship. Couples often start off living life on their own terms; spending, investing, and saving as per their wish. However, when their lives entwine with their partners, they discover that it doesn’t go down as planned. A lack of planning about savings, expenditure, and an unsettled budget can spark immense discontentment in the long run as a sudden change in finances can have a profound impact on the lifestyle which often isn’t that easy to accept. 

Conclusion
This marks the end of the shortlist of mistakes we picked out for you. There is no denying that sharing your life with someone is not all rainbows and butterflies. But that’s what the specialty of relationships is. They are chaotic yet beautiful. You are not meant to be perfect. Take the journey with your partner and keep learning at every step to be a better version of yourself.